A Year Of Reading That Sparked Growth And New Ideas

I didn't read as much as in previous years (2023, 2022, 2021), but that's OK. My goal wasn't necessarily to read a lot but to apply what I read. I did that this year, which is a win.

I grouped the books into categories with mini-reviews. I hope you're inspired to read one of them.

Business Books

Only one real-estate-specific book?! That says a lot about where my focus area was this year.

Wealth Without Cash: Supercharge Your Real Estate Investing with Subject-to, Seller Financing, and Other Creative Deals

By Pace Morby

This book is a game-changer. It's about buying real estate in unconventional ways. Armed with the strategies from this book, I flipped two homes using creative financing (read about the first one). So, it's safe to say this book had the most significant financial impact on my life this year. Pace is a terrific teacher and lays out his time-tested strategies well. It's a little bit of a pitch to join his mentorship group, but that's OK because he still provides a wealth of information in the book.

The Coaching Manual: Your Step-by-Step Guide To Becoming A Great Coach

By Julie Starr

I started coaching other investors and decided to learn how to actually do it. I found this extremely helpful and detailed. I think The Coaching Habit is a better resource for people who coach informally, but this gives a great foundation if you want to get paid to coach.

I read her other book, The Mentoring Manual, last year, which is fine, but this one is significantly better. You can tell this is where she focuses her time and energy.

Million Dollar Weekend: The Surprisingly Simple Way to Launch a 7-Figure Business in 48 Hours

By Noah Kagan

I talked with some younger folks about starting a business, but I struggled to give actionable advice. Then, I heard Kagan on a podcast and liked how he approached exploring business ideas. His book is a fast-paced guide with clear steps for testing ideas quickly. I loved it and apply his validation step (get three paid commitments) whenever I try something new.

Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business

By Gino Wickman

If Million Dollar Weekend is about finding a good idea, Traction is about turning that good idea into an enduring organization to provide that idea. His Entrepreneurial Operating System (EOS) has six components:

• Vision: where are you going, and how will you get there?
• People: do you have the right people in the right seats?
• Data: what are your key metrics (besides financial ones)?
• Issues: are you solving the root cause of problems?
• Process: what are your core processes to ensure consistency?
• Traction: how are you holding everyone accountable?

I've started implementing this into my business and started using this as a framework when coaching others. It's a simple system, but that's a benefit because it's easy to remember and actually implement (unlike Scaling Up, which can be overwhelming). I highly recommend this one if you have an established business of any size.

This Is Strategy: Make Better Plans

By Seth Godin

Godin thinks differently than I do, so I enjoy reading his works. His writing style provides many loosely connected thoughts that together give a picture (a sense?) of his overall idea. For example, this book is 252 pages but has 298 chapters! So, it's not a how-to book. It's more like a here-are-some-thought-provoking-musings type of book. You'll probably enjoy this if you like his blog.

Harvard Business Review Magazine

I feel like I need to put my pinky out whenever I say I subscribe to HBR. Still, of all the magazine subscriptions I've tried, this is the only one where I consistently learn from an article or two. The articles aren't just business profiles, but they also include research and clear action steps. One of my favorite articles from last year is about building cultural values.

Christian Books

I knew I read fewer Christian books this year, but I didn't think it was this few. That'll probably change next year because each of these was amazing!

God and Money: How We Discovered True Riches at Harvard Business School

By John Cortines and Gregory Baumer

I love this book. Cortines and Baumer have a cool-headed and nuanced approach to Biblically thinking about our finances. I like that it's not just their thoughts on the topic - they start with what the Bible says and then share their findings from surveying other Christians about their financial decisions. Their key insight is that we shouldn't ask, "How much should we give to God?" But instead, ask, "How much should we keep?" It's subtle, but fundamentally changes how we think about ourselves as stewards of God's resources.

Living Fearless: Exchanging the Lies of the World for the Liberating Truth of God

By Jamie Winship

This book is about discovering your identity in God. Too often, we define ourselves by our job, and that's too limiting. This was a quick read (176 pages) with simple, practical steps to work through. God revealed that my identity is a "caretaker." Being a real estate investor falls into that, but it's so much more than property and tenant management - it's a call to care for people. It's a subtle but meaningful difference to me.

The Master Plan of Evangelism

By Robert Coleman

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This quick read (162 pages) suggests that we follow Christ's example of evangelism, which he breaks down into eight observations. My high-level summary is this: Focus on a few people and live life with them. Invite them as much as possible - studying, eating, playing, serving, etc! You want to intentionally teach them about Jesus and God during your time together.

This method is critical for new Christians. If all they get is Sunday morning and a weekly Bible study, it's not enough! And the sign that someone is ready to go out on their own is when they start leading (read: living life) others.

I think Coleman gears this book towards church leaders, but all Christians would benefit from reading it.

ESV Bible

This year's reading plan included a bunch of parallel sections. It's nice because each day, I get many parts of the Bible. For example, the last day of the year's reading will be this:

• Malachi 1-4
• Proverbs 31:25-31
• Psalms 150
• John 21:15-25
• Revelation 22

One thing God showed me this year was His approach to missions. God relentlessly makes himself known to his people. I want a similar mindset instead of compartmentalizing everything I do or simply waiting for opportunities.

Biography Audiobooks

This year, I dove into the world of biographies, and I'm glad I did. The lives of these remarkable individuals are not just fascinating but also offer valuable lessons. Their stories are a testament to the power of resilience, determination, and innovation, and we can learn much from their lives.

The Revolutionary: Samuel Adams

By Stacy Schiff

Narrated by Jason Culp

Samuel Adams is an interesting dude. He singularly focused on freeing himself from the British and justified any (written) means to reach his goal. As a prolific writer, he wanted to influence fellow colonists against Britain, not provide impartial reporting.

Strangely, it's comforting to know that the internet didn't ruin news; it's always been a struggle. If anything, the internet helped expose our biases. Though, I don't see anything changing anytime soon.

I also had a strange realization while listening to this book. If I lived around 1776, I probably would have been against Adams and advocated that we stay with Britain and obey their rules! It's a strange admittance because I like how things turned out. But I also prefer following the rules (because they're in my favor 90% of the time). I suppose it's good that decisions are often made by many people with varied backgrounds.

This is a good book to read for our 250-year celebration in 2026.

Breathe: A Life in Flow

By Rickson Gracie and Peter Maguire

Narrated by Fred Sanders

I practiced Gracie jiu-jitsu before having kids and thought learning about the family that started it would be fun. Rickson Gracie is an intense, proud person! I don't agree with many of his life choices (especially as a husband), but his jitsu focus is unreal! I would have relished getting dominated on the mat by him. I enjoyed the history, and anyone else who's practiced jiu-jitsu would appreciate it.

The Princess Diarist

By Carrie Fisher

Narrated by Carrie Fisher and Billie Lourd

I feel like I'm late to the party on this, but I enjoyed hearing her stories from the set. Fisher is a fun writer who doesn't take herself too seriously. In this case, she kept a diary while filming. So, part of the book contains the original entries, and the other part is Fisher explaining what was happening (mostly in her thoughts, not just the events).

I like it when the author reads their own book because it feels like they're talking to you. If you're a Star Wars fan, you'll enjoy this.

The Six: The Untold Story of America's First Women Astronauts

By Loren Grush

Narrated by Inés del Castillo

I enjoyed this one because it also gives the history of NASA's shuttle program. And, not surprisingly, each of the six women is an absolute all-star who would have been incredible at anything they did. Reading about intelligent, capable people who fulfill their destiny is fun.

Shoe Dog: A Memoir by the Creator of Nike

By Phil Knight

Narrated by Norbert Leo Butz

This was by far my favorite biography. I think it's because Knight is so open about his mistakes and insecurities. He didn't even like the name Nike at first! It's such a crazy story of constantly being on the edge of failure but never giving up and finding paths forward.

My guess is that Knight is a smart person, but if he is, he downplays it and instead focuses on his hustle. I think that's also part of the attraction to his story ("you don't have to be a genius, just work hard"). It's really good, and anyone with a business will enjoy it.

Timothy Keller: His Spiritual and Intellectual Formation

By Collin Hansen

Narrated by Collin Hansen

I mean this in the best way possible, but Keller's story was rather... boring. Keller was a great writer with a CS Lewis-esk way of explaining theological concepts that resonated with me. So, I was interested to learn more about his life.

One reason why it's boring (compared to, say, Phil Knight) is we don't get nearly as much of Keller's internal dialog and expectations. Pastors would probably find his story interesting because they can better intuit some of his internal thoughts. For example, deciding to lead a new church must be a complex, soul-searching, social-disrupting experience, but I can't relate.

Paddle Your Own Canoe: One Man's Fundamentals for Delicious Living

Written & narrated by Nick Offerman

Before starting this book, I knew little about Offerman. I knew he was an actor in Parks & Recreation, a woodworker, and funny. Unfortunately,  I didn't enjoy his book.

The primary reason is that we philosophically disagree on many things in life. And things he thinks are funny, I don't think are at all. Plus, he presented his beliefs as obvious truths (and to think differently makes you dumb... or worse), which was a turnoff.

Still, there's value in learning from someone I don't 100% agree with. I felt motivated to spend my evenings more intentionally - to make and do things, not just default to watching shows.

Hillbilly Elegy: A Memoir of a Family and Culture in Crisis

Written & narrated by J. D. Vance

I was interested in this one because

1. he's our new VP (and likely the Republican candidate in 2028),
2. we're almost the same age (he's a year younger), and
3. most importantly, he wrote it before getting into politics.

I didn't have any expectations going into it. I only heard him speak once or twice (I skipped the debate) and simply hoped for an interesting story.

If you didn't know, his childhood was rough! In some ways, it's inspiring to know that anyone - even someone from the hillbilly backcountry - can make it to the Whitehouse alongside a billionaire. But it's also sad that his story is so rare.

I appreciated his insights on how difficult it is to solve poverty (it's just as much about identity and culture as finances). It reminds me of the book Evicted, which comes to the same conclusion. Given his childhood, I wouldn't be surprised if Vance proposes legislation that seems counterintuitive, but might actually start improving some of the US's poverty issues. Maybe?

Self-Improvement Books (Mostly)

Surprise! I saved two of my favorites until the end.

Storyworthy: Engage, Teach, Persuade, and Change Your Life through the Power of Storytelling

By Matthew Dicks

What a great book! If you do any storytelling (and we all do), it's a must-read. Dicks is a fantastic storyteller, and the book is worth reading just to hear his off-beat stories. And it's super practical. Here are my reminders for any story I tell:

•  Focus my stories on moments of change & growth. Smaller moments are better because they're relatable.
• Begin stories with physical movement & a location. This isn't an essay.
• Add stakes: There has to be a problem or goal. And it's even better if the "real" goal changes due to that moment of growth!
• Share my (eventually to be proven wrong) predictions/thoughts before sharing what happened. Phil Knight regularly does this in Shoe Dog.
• For transitions, use "but" and "therefore" instead of "and" - it's more interesting.

I'm still working on this, but I'm getting better thanks to this book.

Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection

By Charles Duhigg

I also love this book! It's on a shortlist of books I'll make my kids read (along with Storyworthy). I tend to quickly jump into problem-solving mode in conversations. Instead, Duhigg shares tools to recognize the type of conversations I'm having: decision-making, emotional, or social. One way to do that is to ask questions to see if the person wants to be helped, hugged, or heard.

And even if it's a decision-making conversation (to be helped), is the person looking for practical solutions (data & reasoning) or empathy (stories & compassion)? This is probably obvious for those with a high EQ, but it was eye-opening for me.

I'm getting better (still not great) at having emotional conversations because I have a mental checklist of questions to ask about feelings, beliefs, values, judgments, and experiences. I know how bad that sounds, but Jessi says that even though she knows I'm working through a checklist of questions, they're good questions! So, our conversations are better (and she appreciates the effort).

How to Be Interesting: In 10 Simple Steps

By Jessica Hagy

This was a quick read with easily digestible thoughts. As I'm getting more into podcasting and videos, one rule is to do epic things and share them. So, I was looking for ways to be more interesting. It was basic, but had some inspiring ideas.

DON'T DIE

By Zero (Bryan Johnson)

This is a weird book. It's an imaginary scenario in which different personalities/emotions discuss health and the future (like in Inside Out). Johnson sold Venmo to PayPal for millions and now focuses on longevity science and technology. This isn't a book of protocols but a philosophical musing. If you're interested in health topics, I'd start somewhere else. However, this could be an interesting read if you want to be inspired to learn more about health.

Superman & Action Comics

Like in previous years, I continue to read two comics about Superman. He's my favorite, and I'm PUMPED for the new Superman movie coming out next year.

Why I Don't Read Physical Books Anymore (and How I Remember What I Read)

 I enjoy reading, but I mostly enjoy nonfiction self-improvement books. For example, my last three books were God and Money, Million Dollar Weekend, and Supercommunicators.

All three are fantastic, with dozens of nuggets I want to remember (101, 97, and 104 nuggets, to be precise). I used to read a book, remember it for a little while, and then its lessons would fade into the background.

But no more.

Kindle

I bought a Kindle Paperwhite in 2013, and it felt magical. Being small and lightweight is nice, but the real perk is the built-in reading light. I love getting books instantly, but the built-in light is still the coolest part. While sleeping in an Indian hostel/camp while hiking in the Himalayas last year, a friend marveled that I could keep reading when it was time to turn off the single bulb in the sleeping quarters. It's such a simple feature, and I love it.

My biggest initial problem with the Kindle was that it didn't show book covers. After a while, all the books started blending together, and I couldn't remember where I read something or the author's name. It's incredible how passively looking at something 30-50 times for 1-2 seconds each time helps information stick.

Thankfully, Amazon eventually fixed my problem by incorporating book covers into the lock screen. (My last request for improvement is the ability to zoom in on graphics, as sometimes the rendering makes them too small to read.)

(side note: I also listen to audiobooks, but only books I don't want to take notes on or highlight. For me, those are biographies and fiction.)

Readwise

In June of 2022, I stumbled upon Readwise, and it's fantastic! The idea is simple: sync your highlights from an eReader, and it'll show you some highlights in a daily email (or the app). Or, manually add any book, and it'll show you popular highlights. You control email frequency and how many highlights are in each email.

The benefit is that it helps you remember what you've read.

Today, one of my 12 highlights was from a book I first read with my mom in 1998 and reread in 2019. Here's the crazy part: in 2019 - before I had Readwise - I highlighted 290 parts of the book!

At the time, I wrote a 4-page summary of the book because I wanted to remember its lessons. It was super helpful at the time, and I still have it saved on my computer, but the last time I opened it was in 2022 (I just looked).

But then today, I got a small reminder:

How cool is that? And it also sparks memories of related passages. Just like seeing a book cover for 1-2 seconds multiple times helps me remember the title and author, these snippets help me remember what I read years ago.

Since getting Readwise, I've used it a lot - 750 days in a row. It's the first or second app I open in the morning.

Physical Books

I like this system so much that I refuse to read paper books. When someone gives me a physical book - and I probably shouldn't admit this - I buy the Kindle version and then give away the physical book!

I figure the point of the gift isn't the book itself, but the knowledge shared by the author.

Though I'll admit, I'm starting to soften my digital-only stance. I'm currently running an experiment of keeping a bookshelf of physical books. My hypothesis is that seeing the books will act as one more memory enhancer and inspiration for other creative work.

My experiment is a little flawed because I read these physical books before buying my Kindle (I added them to Readwise and get popular highlights). So, it might be different to add a book I read digitally, but so far, I like having them in my physical space.

So that's what's working for me right now. If you use a Kindle, I recommend trying Readwise.

41

Celebrating 16 years of marriage... in the DMV parking lot waiting for an HP fireworks show.
Eating a French picnic with some delicious local wine. You can't do crazy stuff every year. :)

Last year, I turned 40 and shared 40 lessons and quotes. I'm amping it up with 41 new lessons and quotes this year!

Just kidding - they'd lose their meaning.

How about just one more from Noah Kagan and Alex Hormozi?

Do 100 reps before even thinking of stopping!

In a culture of increasing instant gratification, I find it hard to accept that I'm initially bad at something and need practice to improve. I'll try it three times, declare (to my inner self) that it's too hard, and stop.

No!

Making valuable things requires skills; frequently, developing those skills takes longer than I think. So, to help me get over the initial slog of learning, I commit to doing 100 reps of the thing before even thinking of stopping.

For example, when Jessi and I started our podcast, we committed to doing it for a year before looking critically at the stats. I figure the first 50 episodes are simply us finding our shared voice. Only after that can we start actually trying to improve and grow it, and then only after that can we assess if it's worth the effort.

Moments before starting our first episode

And guess what?! A few months in, we had a busy week, and recording a podcast felt like one too many things. And it wasn't even growing the business! But then we remembered that business growth isn't the goal this year. It's simply finding our voice and how it fits into our weekly rhythm. We took it as a learning opportunity and kept going.

Success!

Here's a free half-lesson: Translating internet numbers into real life keeps me grounded. When I post a video and "only" get 20 views, I remind myself that if I presented in a room to 20 people, I'd be excited. And when I hit 1,000 views, I imagine the venues required to host that many people—there aren't many in Corvallis. I'd be PUMPED if it were in person.

At the same time, I hold in tension the reality that BILLIONS of people could watch my stuff (and at least 100K ideal customers). So, if only 20 people see it, there's obviously room for improvement.

And that's the key. Within 100 reps of starting something, only focus on improvement. Don't even think about stopping. I'll even say it's better to focus on quantity over quality, and assuming you care about the output (not just doing it to check a box), improvement can't help but happen.

If you're learning something, do 100 reps without any thought of stopping. You got this.

Samson, working on his defense.

Elinor, playing at her recital.

How We Juggle Work, Kids, and Life—Thanks to Our 'Meeting of Life'

Like most families, we have a lot going on: Jessi's job, my business, the kid's school, and everyone's additional activities. It takes effort to stay on the same page! At a minimum, ensuring someone picks up the kids each day can be challenging.

To help, we started holding what we call our "Meeting of Life."

It's a semi-formal meeting between Jessi and me to sync up on things happening in the next few weeks. We started simply by reviewing our calendars together, and it expanded into other shared areas of our lives.

Jessi and I have the meeting after putting the kids to bed on Sunday evening. It's typically 30 minutes, but some weeks, we only sync up on the critical things; other weeks, we spend the entire evening talking. It's been transformational, and I highly recommend it to everyone. 

Here's what we do:

1. Pray

We start with prayer. We ask the Lord to guide our week and align us with His plan for the week.

2. Goals & Emotions

We then share our progress toward long-term goals and our emotional state. We talk a lot throughout the week, so there's rarely a surprise, but it's nice to know how each of us feels about our progress and life in general.

This part of the meeting can extend to an all-evening discussion. If it does, that's because it was needed, so it's all good.

3. Calendar

If we have limited time, this is the one we do. I pull up our calendars on my computer - a big screen where you can see the entire week helps. Yes, we have separate calendars for everyone because now the kids do their own activities. We double-check that drop-offs and pick-ups are covered and talk about irregular events - especially ones that impact the rest of the family.

We look at the next two weeks in detail, discussing each day. Then, we glance out a few weeks, looking for bigger upcoming events that might require planning.

Here's an example week. We have several recurring events, so sometimes there will be some overlaps with one-time events we'll need to resolve - and that's where we'll spend our time getting alignment. We're not crazy, right?

For the record, my normal view excludes everyone else's calendars, so it doesn't look this nuts (though, I do add my tasks, so it's a little nuts...). I cannot overstate how helpful it's been to get on the same page with our schedules! We still have double-booking issues or missing things, but they're much fewer.

4. Meal Plan

Once we have a sense of our schedules, we'll walk over to our meal calendar on the fridge. It's a dry-erase poster with five weeks on it. We re-write it once a month-ish, so it's helpful to ensure what we planned for food still makes sense for the upcoming week. We typically shop in two-week increments, so we also decide when to go shopping (and add it to the calendar).

On our meal plan calendar, we also note any big events that might impact the evening meal. So there's a bit of "two sources of truth," but it's super helpful to quickly see the context for any given meal.

And some weeks, we suddenly realize we're at the end of the calendar! Yeah, we're not perfect... We scrounge for a couple of meals (pasta!), or I'll make a quick trip (for pasta!) to get enough food to last us until we can update the calendar.

5. Finances

Now that Mint is dead, we use Quicken Simplifi to track our personal finances. So, once a month, I categorize transactions, and we look at our progress. I find the last six months over time for net income and expenses the most helpful views.

Here's the expense view. We start with this, and then I filter out big categories (like home, food, etc.), which updates the chart to break out more items from "Everything else."

Before we started regularly meeting, Jessi didn't pay much attention to what was going on. It was OK, but occasionally, it caused a problem because we weren't on the same page. Tracking finances is still a pain, but it's much better when we are aligned.

6. Chore List

We have an epic chore chart that needs resetting every week. Chores are daily, weekly, or monthly, so it's helpful to quickly see what's coming up. Sometimes, we look at something that's supposed to happen and decide to bump it because of what's happening that week.

And, I'll be honest: we're not perfect at this. Some days (weeks?!), we punt on it altogether. As long as we do it 80% of the time, it keeps our house in reasonable shape.

7. Homework and Dinner Discussions

We used to align on what the kids had for homework, but we simplified our weekly rhythm and don't need to discuss it during this time anymore. Instead, once in a while, Jessi will drop homework so I can see the kids' progress a pile of finis.

We also used to plan out some of our dinner discussions (especially on Saturdays - our quieter night), but we're working through a theology book with the kids, so we don't need to align on that, either. But, these were good for us to include so we could be intentional.

So, that's what we do. It's been invaluable to our marriage, and I recommend trying it out for the things in your shared life.

Free, Perfect, and Now

A lesson from business school that I'll never forget is simple: customers want your product or service to be free, perfect, and now. That's it. Simple.

And if I'm honest with myself, that's exactly what I want:

1. the lowest price/effort possible,
2. for the highest quality possible,
3. as soon as possible.

But here's the thing: I typically only get to pick two.

For example, let's say I want to buy my dream house. I will either save up a large down payment over many years, or get it now with a large loan payment. Or, if I'm willing to give up my dream house… dream, I can buy a different house now - in a cheaper location, in worse condition, or in a smaller size - to keep the payments low.

I run into this choice regularly with contractors. Usually, quality is fixed, which means I trade off on price and timing. My default is to be flexible on timing so I can get a better price, but sometimes, a property emergency forces me to pay top dollar to solve a problem immediately.

Keeping these trade-offs in mind helps me make smarter purchasing decisions.

The Business Side

I also find the business side of this framework fascinating. In general, your offering needs to be at least 2X better than their alternative in at least one of those dimensions to get customers to switch.

For example, I target a return for my investors that's 2X better than an alternative investment. And, I guarantee a minimum return that's inherently much better than the stock market.

That's the trick for seeing companies grow: can they offer a 2X or even a 10X improvement? And can they do it in more than one dimension?

Think about when Netflix started streaming movies and shows. They solved for "now," which was 100X better than going to a video store. By setting a fixed monthly price, they also got closer to free than anyone else. The trade-off, at first, was a small A-list catalog, but they solved that too by producing their own shows and buying more streaming rights. It's no wonder they're worth $270 billion!

When Amazon started, it focused on books. You could buy any book cheaply, but you had to wait for it to ship. And, famously, Amazon solved the shipping problem to the point that it's borderline more convenient to order something from Amazon than go to a store (which may or may not have what you want).

So, if you're starting a business, ask yourself how you can be at least 2X better on price, speed, or quality. If you can achieve that, you have the start of a compelling offer.

If you're considering investing in a business, try to understand how it's at least 2X better on one of those dimensions than their customer's best alternative (and how sustainable that advantage is). If you only invest in those businesses, your wealth will grow quickly.

Our Epic Chore Chart

Jessi and I realized a little while back that our kids could contribute more around the house. So, we brainstormed a list, shared it with the kids, asked if we missed anything, and then divided up the chores.

To our surprise, the kids volunteered for many of the tasks! It was great!

For the ones that nobody wanted to do (like picking up dog poop), we agreed to a rotation.

And then Jessi got super creative and made an epic chore chart:

Why write names when you can custom-make little magnets with our faces?

And off to the side are the extra magnets and a reference list of who does what:

It turns out that our kids enjoy checking off a list as much as we do, so it's been incredibly effective. Sometimes, they'll ask us if they can watch a show, and we'll say yes... after they complete their items (and homework).

And, if I'm honest, it works well to remind me of things I need to do (like pull weeds). When I do everything for the day, I feel a sense of calm because I know I'm caught up. It made something that feels never-ending, finite.

I have a hunch we'll still use this tool years after the kids leave the house.

I Completed a 7 Day Media Fast

 The rules are simple: no media for 7 days. This includes:

• TV shows, movies, and short videos (YouTube, TikTok, etc)
• Music, audiobooks, and podcasts
• Social media
• News, blog posts, articles, and books
• Video games (physical games are fine)

Basically, it's anything that you consume. It doesn't matter if it's "good" or "bad" because the point is to take a break from it all. This also includes turning off any notifications related to it. On challenges like these, I tend to eschew exceptions (if I'm doing it, I do it all the way), and I'd encourage you to be uncomfortable.

Oh yeah, and only check/reply to email during two 30-minute chunks.

If you've never tried it, I recommend it. I did it 15 years ago and loved it. The difference this time is that I did it with a friend.

The 4-Hour Workweek

I first learned about the idea in Tim Ferriss's book The 4-Hour Workweek. The point is to help us identify how much information and distraction exist in our lives by doing a media equivalent of an elimination diet.

Like most things, distractions sneak up on us. On both occasions, I was surprised at how productive I was. Although I was mentally exhausted at the end of the day, I felt like I genuinely gave my 100% best, which, if I'm honest, isn't something I could say for a long time.

Then, once you're done, you can be intentional about what you allow (or not!) back into your life. For example, I turned off my email notifications during my fast 15 years ago, and they're still off.

My Observations

I found myself reflexively grabbing my iPad to "kill time" and remembering I wasn't supposed to do that. I was doing it a lot! That's something I want to continue now that I'm back to normal. I want to think of a few items I can put next to my iPad, so I grab one of them instead. Maybe a deck of cards?

It turns out that I don't miss the news. I was a little bummed that I didn't get to watch SpaceX's launch, but then my brother gave me the play-by-play afterward, and in some ways, I think it was better. Though, I plan to watch it because he made it sound pretty exciting. As for everything else, I don't know what I missed, and I'm OK with that.

Driving in silence is... OK. I think it's good to let my brain rest and process instead of instantly putting something on in my ears. Though, on a couple of occasions, I had a half-hour drive and found myself bored in the middle. But maybe I need to be bored more often? I might put a 5-minute rule in place: no listening to anything for at least 5 minutes when I get into the car.

Like 15 years ago, I completely caught up on my email and reached that mythical Inbox Zero. I want to get back to having regular, but limited, focused time for email. My 90-day summer goal is to have at most 20 emails after checking my email. I can do that without a problem if I keep a similar email discipline.

The evenings were the hardest. Because of some health issues, Jessi goes to bed pretty early (~9pm), and that's typically when I watch a movie or play video games. I'm not ready to sleep, but I'm also not in the mood to work on something. I never found anything worth doing. Perhaps my next 90-day goal should be to find a new evening pastime.

Doing it with a friend is fun! You can encourage and commiserate together. It also makes you seem less of a weirdo if people know someone else is doing it because it comes across as "I'm doing a challenge" instead of "I have a problem."

It really did shine a light on how much information and distractions are in my life. It's something that slowly crept up, and I'm glad I did this to reset. I'd encourage you to give it a try. I think it would be good for me to do it once a year.

Why Did TikTok Ban Me?

A strange thing happened to me recently.

My wife and I started a podcast about real estate at the beginning of the year. Like many podcasts, we began sharing short clips from the episode a little more than a month ago. Some are informative nuggets, and others are pure entertainment. I upload them to TikTok, YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook.

It's all perfectly normal, right?

 Well, one day, I tried logging into TikTok via the browser to upload a new set of podcast clips, but it wouldn't let me. Instead, a tiny banner told me my account "was currently suspended."

Strange.

I contacted customer service and received an auto-reply instructing me to check my in-app notifications and submit an appeal.

Hi there, Thanks for contacting TikTok! We have received your request about a Content Violation or Ban. If you believe your content was incorrectly removed, please let us know by submitting an appeal in app. Your feedback helps us improve the way we keep our community safe. To submit an appeal: 1. Locate the notification in your TikTok inbox. 2. Tap the notification. 3. Tap Submit an appeal. 4. Follow the instructions provided. Or Go to the video. 2. Tap Community Guidelines violation: See details. 3. Tap Submit an appeal. 4. Follow the instructions provided. For more information on our moderation process, please visit: https://support.tiktok.com/en/safety-hc/account-and-user-safety/content-violations-and-bans#support Please feel free to reach back out if you weren't able to resolve your issue with the steps above. Thank you, The TikTok Team

OK... but I can't log in. I reply to the message saying so. At this point, my thought is that this is only a log-in issue. I sign in with Apple, and perhaps that's the issue?

Nope! Twelve minutes later, they reply with shocking news:

Hi there,

Thanks for contacting TikTok.

We understand how important your account is to you. After further review, your account will remain permanently banned due to a violation of our Integrity and Authenticity policy.

Please note that our Community Guidelines apply to both public and private content, as well as hashtags and links to third party websites. For further information on your account violation, please reference our Community Guidelines: https://www.tiktok.com/community-guidelines?lang=en

Best,

The TikTok Team

Wait. What?

According to their Integrity and Authenticity policy, there are six ways to get in trouble:

1. Misinformation: Inaccurate, misleading, or false content that may cause significant harm to individuals or society, regardless of intent.
2. Civic and Election Integrity: Paid political promotion, political advertising, or fundraising by politicians and political parties (for themselves or others). Or, misinformation about civic and electoral processes, regardless of intent.
3. Synthetic and Manipulated Media: Synthetic or manipulated media that shows realistic scenes must be clearly disclosed. Synthetic media that contains the likeness of any real private figure. Synthetic media of public figures if the content is used for endorsements or violates any other policy.
4. Fake Engagement: The trade of services that attempt to artificially increase engagement or deceive TikTok's recommendation system.
5. Unoriginal Content and QR Codes: Content that violates someone else's intellectual property rights.
6. Spam and Deceptive Account Behaviors: Account behaviors that may spam or mislead our community.

I gave what felt like a reasonable reply:

Thank you for your prompt response. I appreciate your efforts in maintaining the community guidelines. I'm more than willing to make any necessary adjustments to my content to ensure it aligns with the policies.

Also, I must admit, I'm confused. I read the Community Guidelines, and I don't understand how I violated the Integrity and Authenticity policy. I post short clips of my podcast, which doesn't seem to violate the policy—it's my wife and I talking about investing in real estate.

Is there a particular video/topic that's causing a problem?

James

But, alas, I didn't receive a response.

I'm honestly unsure where I ran afoul and am genuinely curious about why TikTok banned me.

On one hand, my views were low, and the probability of reaching a potential investor is low, so it's not a huge business loss. And I only occasionally watched videos, so that's a small loss, too.

But on the other hand, come on! This feels unfair. Banning someone seems like a big deal, but I only received canned responses. I get that I'm a speck of a fish in their sea and that automated systems are valuable despite not being perfect. I'd feel a little better if they gave me the impression that an actual human spent 5 minutes verifying the situation and told me why I was banned.

Or, perhaps I need to Judo the situation and use the ban to my advantage rather than oppose it directly.

• "So controversial that TikTok banned it!"
• "Results so amazing that TikTok thought it was fake."
• "I'm focusing on distribution channels where my ideal investors hang out."
• "I believe in investing in America."

My Judo is a work in progress.

Until then, you can enjoy our controversial podcast clips featuring our amazing results by investing in America on the platforms where the best investors hang out: YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook. They're so good that TikTok didn't feel worthy to show them.

How To Get The Most Out Of An Online Course

I invest a lot in taking online courses. Some are a few hundred dollars, and some are a few thousand dollars! I love them because it's an opportunity to learn from an expert—with YEARS of experience—who took the time to analyze their craft, organize it in a digestible way, and then methodically teach it.

I know that I could search online for answers or learn through the school of hard knocks, but beyond the time investment, it's hard to separate the wheat from the chaff. I like having an expert tell me what's essential and in an order that builds on itself. Plus, most free resources don't go as deep—they don't provide the exact samples, scripts, models, etc.

Taking online courses is one of the highest ROIs I know.

I've taken courses on writing, playing bass guitar, making videos, syndications, delegating, and land flipping - to list a few.

But you can't just watch them like a TV show. After taking many courses, I've devised a method that works well for me. If I spend time and money on a course, I must get the most out of it.

I'll get to my exact steps, but first, let's talk about video games.

Mastering Video Games

Growing up, I mastered video games by following a specific method:

• I'd play the game, experiment, and eventually figure out the controls. My brother and I were usually evenly matched, and often, he picked up skills faster than me.
• Then I'd read the game manual cover to cover. Because I had the context of the game, the instructions would stick, and I'd learn the advanced skills of the game.
• I'd leapfrog my brother. If it were a fighting or sports game, I'd demolish him.
• Eventually, I'd teach him what I learned, he'd improve, and we'd become competitive again.

It's a bit of a ready-fire-aim strategy: try something (and flail), then learn how to do it properly, try again with much better results, and then teach someone else to cement the concepts. Then, keep practicing while re-reading the instructions to learn specific parts as needed.

So, when I'm considering an online course, it's because I've been trying something and feel like I'm flailing. Or it's because I have knowledge gaps that searching online doesn't fill, and I want an expert to fill those in for me.

Let's get into my process.

Step 0: Read The Book

Before I buy a course, I'll read the creator's work. If they have a book, I'll read it. If not, I'll download their "free tool/report" and subscribe to their emails. I want to sample their teaching style and expertise. Ideally, it's something paid that took effort to create (like a book) because they're not trying to sell me anymore; they're in teaching mode.

It has several benefits: 1) It's a cheap way to sample the course beyond their sales pitch. 2) I can try implementing what I learn to see how effective it is, setting me up for the lessons to sink in deeper. And 3) It often gives me a solid overview of the scope of the course.

If I don't have time (or interest) to read the book, tool, or report, I shouldn't take the course.

Step 1: Binge Watch Everything

I start a course with many questions and find it difficult to focus on the current lesson until I know my specific questions will be answered. So, my solution is to binge-watch everything. I don't take any notes or try to remember anything. Instead, I let the entire thing wash over me.

I aim to get the lay of the land and answer my burning questions. My experience is that there can sometimes be a lot of filler or things I already know, and binging helps me figure out where to dive deep in step 2.

But despite speed running through it, I still have TONS of ah-ha moments because I already have specific questions.

Step 2: Do The Exercises and Rewatch Lessons

Once I finish the course, I start over. But this time, I do the exercises and then rewatch the lessons on subjects I want to sink in. I'll also take notes and apply what I've learned. Doing the exercises before rewatching helps me identify gaps and know where to pay attention when I rewatch the lesson.

I usually find that I spend half as much time on this step as on the bring-watching. Part of the reason is that I don't rewatch everything (like intro videos)—I'm only diving deep into my knowledge gaps.

Doing the exercises is critical because I learn best when I try it. I even do those that seem trivial because A) I start with the assumption that the expert added it for a reason, and B) I often pick up a couple of knowledge bits from doing it.

For example, one exercise involved identifying good investment markets. I already knew how to do it, but forcing myself to do it revealed some areas for improvement.

Step 3: Refresher

I don't always do this, but sometimes I'll go back 6-12 months later and rewatch parts of a course. This is especially true for newer skills because I know there were nuggets of knowledge I wasn't ready to receive.

For example, when I learned to play bass guitar, I got proficient enough to play in my church's worship band but still had gaps. So, after playing for a few months, I rewatched some of the lessons and picked up skills I missed the first time.

Also, once a month, I'll pick one or two lessons from a course and rewatch them. I'll pick ones that feel relevant to whatever I'm working on. I'm not trying to learn anything specific - I'm simply trying to re-steep myself in the concept. And often, I have an "oh yeah… I remember that now" moment.

So that's my process. Online courses are one of the best investments you can make. For $200 - $2,000, you can learn from an expert in an organized, comprehensive course at your own pace. It's incredible.